Comments for Simplify Marriage http://www.simplifymarriage.com Simplify your marriage for a better relationship today. Mon, 25 Jan 2010 03:24:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 Comment on When Children Are Affected by Divorce by Robleyblake http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2010/01/22/when-children-are-affected-by-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3419 Robleyblake Mon, 25 Jan 2010 03:24:26 +0000 http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2010/01/22/when-children-are-affected-by-divorce/#comment-3419 Divorce can be extremely traumatic to families, especially children. My children’s picture book, Living With Mom, Spending Time With Dad takes us through a myriad of emotions that two children, Stephen and Alex, experience through this tumultuous period. Young Alex especially gives an extremely candid and honest account of the day-to-day trauma, the hostility and at times the many poignant memories that he has. Living with Mom, Spending Time with Dad also addresses the concerns and anguish of being torn between two parents. Throughout the story there is that underlying hope that everything will turn out alright and everyone will be back in their original comfort zone. Divorce can be extremely traumatic to families, especially children. My children’s picture book, Living With Mom, Spending Time With Dad takes us through a myriad of emotions that two children, Stephen and Alex, experience through this tumultuous period. Young Alex especially gives an extremely candid and honest account of the day-to-day trauma, the hostility and at times the many poignant memories that he has. Living with Mom, Spending Time with Dad also addresses the concerns and anguish of being torn between two parents. Throughout the story there is that underlying hope that everything will turn out alright and everyone will be back in their original comfort zone.

]]> Comment on Divorce Can Be the Best Thing For Kids by Robleyblake http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2010/01/18/divorce-can-be-the-best-thing-for-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-3403 Robleyblake Tue, 19 Jan 2010 16:54:22 +0000 http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2010/01/18/divorce-can-be-the-best-thing-for-kids/#comment-3403 Divorce can be extremely traumatic to families, especially children. My children’s picture book, Living With Mom, Spending Time With Dad takes us through a myriad of emotions that two children, Stephen and Alex, experience through this tumultuous period. Young Alex especially gives an extremely candid and honest account of the day-to-day trauma, the hostility and at times the many poignant memories that he has. Living with Mom, Spending Time with Dad also addresses the concerns and anguish of being torn between two parents. Throughout the story there is that underlying hope that everything will turn out alright and everyone will be back in their original comfort zone. Divorce can be extremely traumatic to families, especially children. My children’s picture book, Living With Mom, Spending Time With Dad takes us through a myriad of emotions that two children, Stephen and Alex, experience through this tumultuous period. Young Alex especially gives an extremely candid and honest account of the day-to-day trauma, the hostility and at times the many poignant memories that he has. Living with Mom, Spending Time with Dad also addresses the concerns and anguish of being torn between two parents. Throughout the story there is that underlying hope that everything will turn out alright and everyone will be back in their original comfort zone.

]]> Comment on The Affect of Divorce on Children by RobleyBlake http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2010/01/14/the-affect-of-divorce-on-children/comment-page-1/#comment-3393 RobleyBlake Sat, 16 Jan 2010 00:13:59 +0000 http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2010/01/14/the-affect-of-divorce-on-children/#comment-3393 Divorce can be extremely traumatic to families, especially children. My children’s picture book, Living With Mom, Spending Time With Dad takes us through a myriad of emotions that two children, Stephen and Alex, experience through this tumultuous period. Young Alex especially gives an extremely candid and honest account of the day-to-day trauma, the hostility and at times the many poignant memories that he has. Living with Mom, Spending Time with Dad also addresses the concerns and anguish of being torn between two parents. Throughout the story there is that underlying hope that everything will turn out alright and everyone will be back in their original comfort zone. Divorce can be extremely traumatic to families, especially children. My children’s picture book, Living With Mom, Spending Time With Dad takes us through a myriad of emotions that two children, Stephen and Alex, experience through this tumultuous period. Young Alex especially gives an extremely candid and honest account of the day-to-day trauma, the hostility and at times the many poignant memories that he has. Living with Mom, Spending Time with Dad also addresses the concerns and anguish of being torn between two parents. Throughout the story there is that underlying hope that everything will turn out alright and everyone will be back in their original comfort zone.

]]> Comment on Tips to Save a Marriage – How to Handle Conflict and Avoid Divorce by Dr. Karen Sherman http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2010/01/07/tips-to-save-a-marriage-how-to-handle-conflict-and-avoid-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-3379 Dr. Karen Sherman Tue, 12 Jan 2010 20:41:32 +0000 http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2010/01/07/tips-to-save-a-marriage-how-to-handle-conflict-and-avoid-divorce/#comment-3379 These are all really good points! As a relationship expert (www.ChoiceRelationships.com), I would like to add that couples need to know that conflicts are bound to happen. But here's the good news: there are skills they can learn so that they can handle them better. When they do, their partnerships fare much better. I offer a free teleseminar, "The 7 Tools to Manage Conflict Communication in Your Relationship." To hear it, go to: http://choicerelationships.com/teleseminar_resources. These are all really good points!

As a relationship expert (www.ChoiceRelationships.com), I would like to add that couples need to know that conflicts are bound to happen. But here’s the good news: there are skills they can learn so that they can handle them better. When they do, their partnerships fare much better. I offer a free teleseminar, “The 7 Tools to Manage Conflict Communication in Your Relationship.” To hear it, go to: http://choicerelationships.com/teleseminar_resources.

]]> Comment on Use Natural Family Planning to Build a Stronger Marriage by Dustin | Engaged Marriage http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2009/12/30/use-natural-family-planning-to-build-a-stronger-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3299 Dustin | Engaged Marriage Thu, 31 Dec 2009 15:58:31 +0000 http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2009/12/30/use-natural-family-planning-to-build-a-stronger-marriage/#comment-3299 I totally agree! Natural Family Planning is the best thing that happened to our marriage. I spread the word as often as I can! I totally agree! Natural Family Planning is the best thing that happened to our marriage. I spread the word as often as I can!

]]> Comment on How Do Children React to Divorce? How Should a Parent Respond? An Outline Based on Maturity by RobleyBlake http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2009/12/25/how-do-children-react-to-divorce-how-should-a-parent-respond-an-outline-based-on-maturity/comment-page-1/#comment-3289 RobleyBlake Mon, 28 Dec 2009 03:27:09 +0000 http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2009/12/25/how-do-children-react-to-divorce-how-should-a-parent-respond-an-outline-based-on-maturity/#comment-3289 Divorce can be extremely traumatic to families, especially children. My children’s picture book, Living With Mom, Spending Time With Dad takes us through a myriad of emotions that two children, Stephen and Alex, experience through this tumultuous period. Young Alex especially gives an extremely candid and honest account of the day-to-day trauma, the hostility and at times the many poignant memories that he has. Living with Mom, Spending Time with Dad also addresses the concerns and anguish of being torn between two parents. Throughout the story there is that underlying hope that everything will turn out alright and everyone will be back in their original comfort zone. Divorce can be extremely traumatic to families, especially children. My children’s picture book, Living With Mom, Spending Time With Dad takes us through a myriad of emotions that two children, Stephen and Alex, experience through this tumultuous period. Young Alex especially gives an extremely candid and honest account of the day-to-day trauma, the hostility and at times the many poignant memories that he has. Living with Mom, Spending Time with Dad also addresses the concerns and anguish of being torn between two parents. Throughout the story there is that underlying hope that everything will turn out alright and everyone will be back in their original comfort zone.

]]> Comment on Does He Really Want a Divorce? Tips and Advice That May Help by holly http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2009/03/16/does-he-really-want-a-divorce-tips-and-advice-that-may-help/comment-page-1/#comment-3287 holly Sat, 26 Dec 2009 22:20:42 +0000 http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2009/03/16/does-he-really-want-a-divorce-tips-and-advice-that-may-help/#comment-3287 hi.my name is holly and i am desperate for some sort of advice. i have been married for 2yrs to a man from the middle east. One of the reasons i fell in love with him is that he was such a gentleman. Sending flowers to my doorstep, traiing rose petals through my appartment leading to champagne and chocolates, opened doors, and most importantly to me, he did not raise his voice at me or show and form of aggression the whole time we were dating.( i had recently recovered from an abusive relationship). After we got married, i noticed slight changes in him (almost instantly.) He became short tempered, accused me of plotting against him, he told me to stop talking to the people i knew. I feel so trapped with the one i love.he is now at the point where i cannot speak to him without dealing with a major outrage to a minor misunderstanding. He does have a heavy accent and sometimes i dont hear him well. he will not accept this answer. he accuses me of trying to piss him off all the time...and he has recently gotten physical with me. i haven't done anything at all to deserve such disrespect. his outbursts just seem so sporatic and instant that it almost reminds me of a psychological disorder. He now is convinced that i am only with him because it is convienent and to plot against him and ruin him... this sounds like some sort of bipolar paranoia(which of corse he will not accept) how can i convince him, he need serious help!!!!! hi.my name is holly and i am desperate for some sort of advice. i have been married for 2yrs to a man from the middle east. One of the reasons i fell in love with him is that he was such a gentleman. Sending flowers to my doorstep, traiing rose petals through my appartment leading to champagne and chocolates, opened doors, and most importantly to me, he did not raise his voice at me or show and form of aggression the whole time we were dating.( i had recently recovered from an abusive relationship). After we got married, i noticed slight changes in him (almost instantly.) He became short tempered, accused me of plotting against him, he told me to stop talking to the people i knew. I feel so trapped with the one i love.he is now at the point where i cannot speak to him without dealing with a major outrage to a minor misunderstanding. He does have a heavy accent and sometimes i dont hear him well. he will not accept this answer. he accuses me of trying to piss him off all the time…and he has recently gotten physical with me. i haven’t done anything at all to deserve such disrespect. his outbursts just seem so sporatic and instant that it almost reminds me of a psychological disorder. He now is convinced that i am only with him because it is convienent and to plot against him and ruin him… this sounds like some sort of bipolar paranoia(which of corse he will not accept) how can i convince him, he need serious help!!!!!

]]> Comment on How Do Children React to Divorce? How Should a Parent Respond? An Outline Based on Maturity by Donna Ferber, LPC, LADC http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2009/12/25/how-do-children-react-to-divorce-how-should-a-parent-respond-an-outline-based-on-maturity/comment-page-1/#comment-3285 Donna Ferber, LPC, LADC Sat, 26 Dec 2009 19:51:19 +0000 http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2009/12/25/how-do-children-react-to-divorce-how-should-a-parent-respond-an-outline-based-on-maturity/#comment-3285 Excellent advice! As a psychotherapist who works with families and divorce, I think it is important to understand that every difficulty a child experiences is not due to divorce. Some are merely developmental issues. For example, a certain amount of sullen behavior is normal for adolescences. Don't panic that your divorce "damaged" your child. Divorce can become a lightning rod for all issues the child faces. Some are developmental and some may be peer driven. The point is, as a parent, not to panic. So, when to consult a child therapist? Look for clusters of symptoms, intensity and duration. The child who occasionally retreats to his/her room or has trouble sleeping, or whose grades take a tumble may not have a problem. HOWEVER, if all three are present at the same time and seem to be escalating over a period of time( say 2-3 weeks), then a consultation with a professional is necessary. Even then your child's difficulties may not be related to the divorce. And if it is-your guilt, shame, remorse, etc., is not going to help your child heal and move on. Parents must put aside their own insecurities and deal with the needs of their kids. Not an easy task, which is why adults need support. Talk to friends, join a support group. Do things to bring connection into your own life. It will help you maintain perspective and make good parenting decisions. Donna F.Ferber, LPC, LADC Author From Ex-Wife To Exceptional Life: A Woman's Journey though Divorce www.donnaferber.com Excellent advice! As a psychotherapist who works with families and divorce, I think it is important to understand that every difficulty a child experiences is not due to divorce. Some are merely developmental issues. For example, a certain amount of sullen behavior is normal for adolescences. Don’t panic that your divorce “damaged” your child. Divorce can become a lightning rod for all issues the child faces. Some are developmental and some may be peer driven. The point is, as a parent, not to panic. So, when to consult a child therapist? Look for clusters of symptoms, intensity and duration. The child who occasionally retreats to his/her room or has trouble sleeping, or whose grades take a tumble may not have a problem. HOWEVER, if all three are present at the same time and seem to be escalating over a period of time( say 2-3 weeks), then a consultation with a professional is necessary. Even then your child’s difficulties may not be related to the divorce. And if it is-your guilt, shame, remorse, etc., is not going to help your child heal and move on. Parents must put aside their own insecurities and deal with the needs of their kids. Not an easy task, which is why adults need support. Talk to friends, join a support group. Do things to bring connection into your own life. It will help you maintain perspective and make good parenting decisions.
Donna F.Ferber, LPC, LADC
Author From Ex-Wife To Exceptional Life: A Woman’s Journey though Divorce
http://www.donnaferber.com

]]> Comment on Save Your Marriage – Five Things to Think About by Lynda http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2009/12/04/save-your-marriage-five-things-to-think-about/comment-page-1/#comment-3209 Lynda Sat, 12 Dec 2009 16:31:39 +0000 http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2009/12/04/save-your-marriage-five-things-to-think-about/#comment-3209 This article was written by Brett R. Williams and Lynda R. Williams. We are happy that you have included it on your site. We hope you find the points helpful. This article was written by Brett R. Williams and Lynda R. Williams. We are happy that you have included it on your site. We hope you find the points helpful.

]]> Comment on Divorce Recovery – Being in the Now by Brian Daniel http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2009/11/30/divorce-recovery-being-in-the-now/comment-page-1/#comment-3177 Brian Daniel Tue, 01 Dec 2009 00:22:23 +0000 http://www.simplifymarriage.com/2009/11/30/divorce-recovery-being-in-the-now/#comment-3177 "in the NOW" must be the same as living life to the fullest? My book on divorce recovery called the "Upside of Divorce" for short explains how I was able to do this and move on past divorce more easily and quickly. Search "upside of divorce" on Amazon and get LOWER PRICES from my own website "self-help-products-and-services (com). ..or email me at tibodad@yahoo (com) Thanks again for allowing to pitch my book! Brian Daniel “in the NOW” must be the same as living life to the fullest?

My book on divorce recovery called the “Upside of Divorce” for short explains how I was able to do this and move on past divorce more easily and quickly.

Search “upside of divorce” on Amazon and get LOWER PRICES from my own website “self-help-products-and-services (com).

..or email me at tibodad@yahoo (com)

Thanks again for allowing to pitch my book!
Brian Daniel

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